what aspects of parents' learning can be outcomes of impactful partnership?

The second aspect of the outcomes of partnership focuses on parents' learning domains. The seven different learning domains are important as they are signposts to progress. Being alert to them can aid reflection and may help to capture outcomes that would otherwise be missed. They can also be shared and discussed with parents as a way to help them see progress being made and to negotiate priorities.

Partnership can have impacts in many domains, including physical and mental health. We found that:

  • Many outcomes depend on parents’ learning
  • Parents’ learning is also sometimes an outcome in itself (this is a key part of the framing idea of diverse impacts).

When parents are aware of what they are learning, this can boost their confidence, esteem, and commitment to the change process

Trust, acceptance and openness are essential conditions for parents’ learning. They apply to both helpers and parents.

We found seven domains of parent learning that are connected. These were all features of the impactful partnership relationships that we studied. Each represented expansion in the ways parents interpreted and/or acted.

This learning is not a simple matter of transferring what helpers to know to parents (see key concept box); rather it is a question of productive entanglement between what helpers know, what parents previously knew, and new knowledge that emerges through the process.

Impactful partnership involves more than meeting parents’ goals. Parents’ learning across these seven domains is a big part of what empowers families and builds their resilience, not just to their present problems, but to those they will encounter in future. When understood in this way, parents’ learning is closely connected with their developing agency (see key concept box in noticing section).

The learning domains and the three conditions that enable learning across those domains are shown in the diagram below. Because these outcomes are all about what parents learn, this section is written from the parent’s point of view. The diagram also takes this perspective.

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    Getting help

    When and how to ask

    how change happens

    Expectations of process

    Parenting

    Being a great parent without needing to perfect

    My child

    Child not as a problem

    Myself

    Me not as a failure

    My family

    What matters to us

    Relationships 

    Being in positive relationships

    trust

    Trust oneself and others in the context of change

    acceptance

    Acceptance of difficulty, but not being resigned in the face of problems

    openness

    Openness to new ideas, trying new things, thinking and acting in new ways

    The diagram can be used in various ways:

    1. As a map to define future directions and identify priorities
    2. As a way to solicit what matters to parents
    3. As a way to help make progress visible to parents – signs of learning in these domains may be visible before a goal has been accomplished (and helper expertise is needed to recognise these signs).

    The three central features of trust, acceptance and openness can be used as mediating tools (see key concept box in relation to what matters: parent-child): they can provide a focus of attention that shifts effort away from a problem itself and redirects it towards the nature of the solution.


    Key concept: learning as a parent

    Although the idea of parents’ learning may seem obvious, we use it with a particular meaning. This is especially important in the context of understanding impactful partnership. Parents’ learning is not simply about them acquiring knowledge from helpers. Nor is it about figuring out the solution to particular problems. Consistent with the Vygotskian approach we take, we consider parents’ learning as relating to ways in which their possibilities for interpreting and acting in the world expand. By interpreting, we mean ways of making sense of the world, seeing meaning, making connections, understanding what is relevant to a particular issue. By acting in the world, we mean things parents do and say. The two are linked: new interpretations can lead to new actions being possible or seeming helpful, while new actions can lead to new ways of making sense of something.


    Trust

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    Parents' trust in themselves and others; helpers' trust in parents

     

    Parents' learning is undermined if they do not trust themselves as parents. Trusting themselves provides a basis to take on challenges, and to feel legitimate as a knowledge partner when working with others. Parents also need to trust those helping them: trust that helpers have their and their children's best interests at heart, and that they can share difficult things with helpers as intimate outsiders who will not give up on them or disappear when things get tough. This trust is not automatic, and is often hard-earned, especially when families have had poor or difficult relationships with services in the past (see building impactful partnership relationships).

    Helpers also need to trust parents. This means trusting them to be committed to the partnership, trusting them as knowledge partners, trusting them to be committed to change in relation to issues that matter to them, even if at times they do not follow through with suggestions, or seem ready to give up.

    Being trusted by others, particular professionals, can be a new and empowering experience for parents, and can help them reconsider themselves as worthy of trust when the messages they get from others often seem to suggest otherwise.

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    acceptance

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    Acceptance of difficulty, but not being resigned in the face of problems

     

    Acceptance means parents accepting that parenting is difficult. In turn, this means accepting the fact that struggling as a parent does not mean they are failing as a parent. For many parents, accepting help is not easy, but this is crucial if they are to learn. The acceptance of help is most productive when parents retain a sense of their own agency. Parents also need to accept inevitable challenge if change is to be accomplished. To learn as parents, they must accept themselves as capable, good parents, even if they don’t (yet) recognise that deep down.

    Helpers also need to accept parents for who they are. This is part of being authentic and meeting parents as people (see characteristics of impactful partnership). Accepting parents for who they are does not mean accepting all of their views or behaviours, particularly views of themselves as failures, or behaviours that pose a risk to child safety. But it does mean that the parents' experience of learning needs to include the feeling that helpers are supporting them, not trying to change who they are.

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    openness

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    Openness to new ideas, trying new things, thinking and acting in new ways

     

    Openness is crucial, too. This means parents having an open mind, so that potentially narrow ideas about what is possible and how to get there are no longer barriers to progress. Helpers need to be open to what matters to parents.

    Openness also refers to communication with helpers. Helpers have to be open (for example about mandatory reporting), and establish conditions in which parents will also feel comfortable being open.

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    my child

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    Learning about my child and what matters to him or her

    Shifting the idea from fixing a problematic child to learning about my child can create impact and be extremely powerful. Some of the new understandings of children we saw were:

    • Children’s cries as communicating varied meanings
    • Children’s (challenging) behaviour as a message that needs to be understood
    • Children finding security in patterns and predictability
    • Children’s preference being for a warm relationship with caregivers.
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    “If you yell at a child, their brain shuts off and they don’t actually hear what you’re saying. And if you’re constantly yelling, nothing’s going to get through.” (Parent)

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    myself

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    Learning about myself as a parent

     

    Parents’ changing their understandings of themselves is both an outcome and a necessary ingredient of impactful partnership. We saw parents learning about:

    • Their strengths and capacities – in the past, present and future – including how agentic they already are and can continue to be (see key concept box on agency)
    • What matters to them as parents
    • The importance of their own wellbeing and self-care, and ways to protect and nurture these.
    “I had a very high-pressure job where I always worked hard and knew what I was doing. Then all a sudden there’s this little person that I could not control and I felt completely out of my depth. I had no idea what I was doing, I just forgot to listen to my instincts.” (Parent)

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    my family

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    Learning about my family and what matters to us

     

    While parents have deep knowledge of their families, this knowledge also grows during partnership. As with other domains, this learning is both an outcome of impactful partnership and a resource that can be used to drive the change process forward. Our study found evidence of parents learning:

    • How their family situation is not impossible or highly unusual
    • How their family can be a source of resilience to difficult situations
    • How any change affects all members of the family.
    “It made me feel a bit more comfortable that, no, not all babies are the same and I can do what I want to and what works for us.” (Parent)

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    relationships with others

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    Learning how to be in relationships with others and why these relationships matter

     

    Parents’ understandings of their relationships with others shifted in all the examples of change we studied. These included relationships with their children, partners, friends, professionals, volunteers, police, and other members of the community. Parents learned:

    • What existing relationships offer as a resource for change
    • How new relationships might help bring about change
    • That past experience of difficult relationships need not predict their experience of future relationships
    • What they can do to develop positive and secure relationships
    • How to manage relationships, including dealing with rupture and repair in their relationships – including with helpers (see essence of partnership), partners, extended family, and their children.

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    Learning to make the most of available help

     

    Getting help isn’t always easy for parents. Important outcomes often related to parents’ learning about:

    • When to seek help
    • What issues to seek help with
    • How to find and secure that help.

    Many parents also learned that getting help isn’t a sign of weakness, but rather takes strength.

    “She knows there’s help there if she needs it, and that she doesn’t have to do it on her own.” (Helper)

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    how change happens

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    Learning what to expect in the change process

     

    Parents’ understanding of the change process makes a big difference to them. We found successful partnerships involved parents understanding change as:

    • Involving small steps (hopefully with big effects)
    • Not always going as planned – setbacks are common
    • Occurring at varied paces, sometimes quicker or slower
    • Hard for everyone involved.

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    parenting

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    Learning about parenting and why it is hard

     

    Without the other six domains of learning, new understandings of parenting are less likely to emerge or take hold. In fact, all seven domains depend on each other. Often, learning about parenting focused on:

    • Recognising what is demanding about parenting, and what is demanded of parents (including not being perfect, and accepting that mistakes are part of parenting)
    • Reading children’s cues and responding to them
    • Figuring out what strategies or actions work best in this family
    • Realising that changing what they do as parents is important in moving forward, but this doesn’t mean parents are to blame for problems in the first place.

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    Using the parent learning outcomes to enhance your practice

    The main worksheet (ready to print on A4 or A3 paper) is designed for practitioners to reflect on their practice. There is also a version that you may find helpful to use in your actual work with families - this contains the main figure and some key prompts.

    Worksheet 14 - Parents' learning (to print on A4)

    Worksheet 14 - Parents' learning (to print on A3)

    Parents' learning tool for use with families